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How I Overcame Anxiety with This Secret: Self-Advocacy.

carolyn barnes

For years, I battled with anxiety and carried around a burden of unprocessed emotions. I became adept at repressing my feelings, thinking it would make my anxiety go away. Little did I know that it was only exacerbating the problem. The more I bottled up my emotions, the more intense my anxiety became. It was a vicious cycle that I desperately needed to break free from.

One game-changing realization came when I discovered the power of advocating for myself and speaking up. It was scary at first, stepping out of my comfort zone and expressing my true thoughts and feelings. But as I started to practice this newfound skill, something remarkable happened—I felt less anxious. It was as if a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. By voicing my needs, desires, and boundaries, I began to regain a sense of control over my own life. No longer was I trapped in the suffocating grip of anxiety. Instead, I found solace in being authentic and unapologetically myself. One key decision I made along this journey was to eliminate the word "should" from my vocabulary. That seemingly innocent word had the power to hold me back and make me feel obligated to conform to societal expectations or other people's opinions. I realized that living by "should's or shouldn'ts" only perpetuated the cycle of anxiety and hindered my personal growth. By letting go of "should," I was able to meet myself where I was at. It was a hard thing to stomach at the time, but not liking where I was at proved to be so much more effective than denying, complaining, or feeling like I "shouldn't" be feeling this way. The truth was, I WAS feeling the way I was feeling, and it wasn't a fault. It just was happening. This simple shift allowed me to sit in my emotions without judgment. Even though it was a hopeless feeling, I was allowing myself to feel it, which was empowering in a bizarre way. I went from fighting my emotions or trying to get rid of them to feeling them and acknowledging their existence. Even though I didn't like it, it was liberating in some weird way. This was the beginning of a turning point where I discovered how I could focus on what felt right for me, honoring my own values and aspirations. It wasn't about seeking validation or meeting external expectations anymore. Instead, it became about listening to my inner voice and trusting my own judgment. Of course, it wasn't an overnight transformation. Breaking free from years of conditioning and redefining my relationship with anxiety took time and effort. But with each small step forward, I gained confidence and resilience. I learned to acknowledge and process my emotions instead of burying them deep within. Now, when anxiety starts to creep in, I remind myself of the progress I've made. I remind myself of the strength I possess to advocate for myself and let go of the unnecessary pressure to please everyone else. It's a constant journey of self-discovery and self-compassion. If you find yourself in a similar situation, struggling with anxiety and suppressing your emotions, know that there is hope. You have the power within you to break free from the grip of anxiety and reclaim your voice. Start by acknowledging your feelings, practicing self-compassion, and gradually expressing yourself in a way that feels authentic to you. Remember, your emotions are valid, and your needs matter. Don't let anxiety dictate your life.


Advocating for myself allowed me to embrace the power of letting go. So I encourage you to let go of the word "should." Embrace a life that is true to who you are, and watch as your anxiety diminishes, and Anxiety relief creates the way for a sense of peace, fulfillment, and genuine happiness.Emotional well-being, and Self-empowerment are the gratest gifts to give yourself. #AnxietyFree #SelfAdvocacy #InnerPeace #OvercomingAnxiety #EmotionalWellness

 
 
 

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